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Sex Offenders-How To Protect Your Child

A 58-year-old man accused of molesting an 11-year-old girl and masturbating in front of her and her friends while watching pornography told investigators he was teaching the girls about sex, Mesa police said. James Wimbush was a 14-year resident of an apartment complex in Mesa, AZ. On Aug. 2, an 11-year-old girl who lived in the same complex told her mother that Wimbush had shown her pornographic videos on two separate occasions, according to police. Her 11-year-old friend was also present during one of the viewings, police said.

These child sexual molestation incidents could have been prevented, if people only knew what to do. There are seven compelling and powerful parent approved and child tested techniques to thwart would-be sex offenders.

The best way to protect children is through the power of education. It is paramount to teach your children how to protect themselves, whether it is online, on a playground, the mall or at home.

How can children protect themselves?

o Accept the fact that sex offenders are average and ordinary.

The unbelievable truth: Sex offenders conduct themselves as average and ordinary to the world. He or she may be a leader in the church; the community; or business. Sex offenders seldom fit a classic stereotype–education, socioeconomic status, career or culture.

o Accept the definition of sexual child abuse.

“The new definition of sexual child abuse relies less on the blood bond between the victim and the perpetrator and more on the experience of the child. Incest is both sexual abuse and an abuse of power. It is violence that does not require force. Another is using the victim, treating them in a way that they do not want or in a way that is not appropriate by a person with whom a different relationship is required. It is abuse because it does not take into consideration the needs or wishes of the child; rather, it meets the needs of the other person at the child’s expense.

If the experience has sexual meaning for another person, in lieu of a nurturing purpose for the benefit of the child, it is abuse. If it is unwanted or inappropriate for her age or the relationship, it is abuse. Incest [sexual abuse] can occur through words, sounds, or even exposure of the child to sights or acts that are sexual but do not involve her. If she is forced to see what she does not want to see, for instance, by an exhibitionist, it is abuse. If a child is forced into an experience that is sexual in content or overtone that is abuse. As long as the child is induced into sexual activity with someone who is in a position of greater power, whether that power is derived through the perpetrator’s age, size, status, or relationship, the act is abusive. A child who cannot refuse, or who believes she or he cannot refuse, is a child who has been violated.” -E. Sue Blume, Secret Survivors

o Know the signs your child is or could be targeted

Self-protection offers a direct and effective method for children to protect themselves. Who, other than the child, is in a better position to protect him/herself? Sex offenders say they can sense a child to victimize. They can tell by the child’s demeanor, body language, and facial expression. They sense the fear, the helplessness, the passivity. They chose a child who is easily intimidated or controlled so hopefully the child won’t tell. Secrecy is paramount for the perpetrator.

o Trust your suspicions

Several people in this apartment complex stated James Wimbush seemed a little odd. Appropriate suspicion or a sixth sense is key to thwarting would-be sex offenders. The majority of people dismiss their suspicions as being an over reaction, ironically, this is seldom the case. And furthermore, it is better to be safe than sorry.

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